Laura schlessinger quotes

I think it was much better when you got on your horse and rode two miles to talk to your neighbor.

We, as human beings, should wish to be loved and embraced for our character, respected and relied on for our courage, and trusted for our conscience.

The ultimate quality of your life is not in your resume, but in the minds and hearts of those you mean something to because you gave yourself to them.

Never ask anyone if you should do something, if ultimately you are afraid to do it. You'll save yourself a lot of trouble.

It is attitude, infinitely more than circumstance, that determines the quality of life. Life is often quite tough, challenging us to choose between seemingly esoteric, intangible ideals and getting goodies or good vibes right now. You have character when you most often choose ideals.

Integrity, honesty, and honor may not give immediate rewards or gratification, and they can be life-threatening (for example, being a whistle-blower or turning state's evidence). The absence of integrity, honesty, and honor do not always bring punishment or scorn, and can be life-aggrandizing (connivers and cheats often gain power and wealth). Therefore, morality must be its own reward.

Never miss an opportunity to look like a nice guy.

Women have to be controlled- we're just too emotional.

Unless I have hallucinated, I have never made an anti-gay commentary, I have made anti-gay-activist-agenda commentaries.

People who have "their own issues" often don't stand back and look at the big picture- they're too busy orchestrating their own issues.

Boys are slobs... One reason is that mothers let them get away with it. Mothers are notorious for spoiling male children.

In the end analysis, all we have is who we are and the way we have lived our lives.

When you're the victim of the behavior, it's black and white; when you're the perpetrator, there are a million shades of gray.

Go do the right thing.

When you change yourself to win someone's heart, you better be prepared to accept that this will now be your way of life forever.

When you're around people, act like you like them.

A lot of what children's hurt feelings are about is how the parents react.

Principles don't mean anything until they cost you something.

Don't put your nose into somebody else's laundry, if you are not willing to fold your own.

Don't worry so much about your self-esteem. Worry more about your character. Integrity is its own reward.

You have to define success in your own way. What maintains your dignity and integrity and what is your life's plan; where do you want to put your efforts? I could be richer and more famous, but I would have to give up things that are of infinitely more value.

Oh, well, there's a difference between privacy and secrecy.

You'd be amazed at how much power women have over men - and the basic control is nagging... Men are very simple creatures, like puppies.

The feeling of your baby taking nourishment from your body for the first time is amazing, and it remains the most touching moment of my life.

I want to regain my First Amendment rights.

A woman should always be more concerned with standing up for what is right than making sure everyone 'likes' her.

If you want a weak man, you might as well marry a woman.

People with integrity do what they say they are going to do. Others have excuses.

Too many people make the past their identity and spend the rest of their lives accumulating sympathy for their past pain.

Men are very easy to get along with- they just want to come home to something pleasant.

There's no battered woman alive who didn't know in advance that the man was bad.

Would you stop hoping? Hope is just postponed disappointment.

Situations reveal who we are, they don't create who we are.

You don't need to make your heart and your head agree. Let your head make the decision, your heart will catch up eventually.

There is little reason left for society to respect women as it once did. Women get knocked up. They don't marry. They have abortions. They go to bars. They get knocked up again.

There is no unconditional love in the universe.

Nobody leaves a house where there is peace, joy and good sex.

Venting every feeling isn't mature. Learning to deal with uncomfortable and unpleasant feelings is an important aspect of maturity.

Every man knows- you criticize a woman - that's it for sex for the next year.

If you think positively instead of negatively, you'll behave better and you'll feel better.

Having a sense of purpose in life is the best way to avoid dispair.

Self-esteem must be earned! When you dare to dream, dare to follow that dream, dare to suffer through the pain, sacrifice, self-doubts, and friction from the world, you will genuinely impress yourself.

Other people do not owe me their availability.

Only good people feel guilt.

You don't go by your feelings. You do what is right.

Remember that feelings or emotions emanate from the more ancient, less evolved, lower part of the human brain, while thoughts are a product of our highly evolved, uniquely human, outer part of the brain.

Probably more than half of the people who go into psychology do so because they need help. I think it's their way of feeling that they have control.

There's no reason to yell at anybody.

It doesn't matter how we were raised. We become the person we choose to be.

Some people seem to see compassion as being mushy.

Somehow we've even developed the notion that a woman who seeks to meet her husband's needs is subservient (but a husband who fails to meet his wife's needs is a pig.)

People get mad at me very easily. The magnitude of your anger toward me is the measure of how much you know you are doing wrong.

Victimization status is the modern promised land of absolution from personal responsibility.

A lot of what children go through is because you adults don't carry the burden yourself.

The TEN Commandments are not prefaced with "If you're in the mood".

When you choose wrong because it suits you right now, the message you give others is that when it suits you, you may likely do wrong again. You become a threat and liability to others. That's a pragmatic reason, outside of pride in morality, not to do wrong.

Learning to endure, transform by perspective or action, and be grateful is the fast lane to a good life. That's right. Having great luck and fortune is not the conduit to a loving and enjoyable life; gratitude is.

I'm quite amused by the attempt to excuse not trying harder, by claiming that perfect is not possible; it may not be, but striving toward it as an ideal is! It is in the act of 'striving' that we demonstrate character, courage, and conscience.

Everyone has the right to go on a vacation without kids if they want.

You have the power. You are the magic wand.

Values are principles and ideas that bring meaning to the seemingly mundane experience of life. A meaningful life that ultimately brings happiness and pride requires you to respond to temptations as well as challenges with honor, dignity, and courage.

Women seem not to understand, or underestimate, the profound power they have over their husbands.

Psychology doesn't like to talk about evil. It likes to talk about bad childhoods. But I very much believe that some people are evil and motivation is not necessary for evil.

There is seemingly no biological benefit to acting with conscience; if there were, only moral individuals would survive and procreate. Sadly, we know that's not true. The benefit of conscience is that you won't suffer guilt (private) or shame (public), and that by your own self-imposed definition, you are a moral human, a special kind of animal who takes unique pride in elevating him/herself above the termites.

People are like nations-if you help them a lot, they hate you.

Postponing happiness until "all your ducks are in order" means never because life is not that clean, fair or predictable. It isn't what happens to you that defines your life, it is what you do with it that does.

Children are our second chance to have a great parent-child relationship.

If your life is going to be dictated by what's comfortable, your life will stink.

People from the most horrendous of childhoods can have good lives, but it comes down to a very seemingly simple word. 'Choice.'

You guys on the white horses keep trying to save women in distress, not realizing you just end up with a distressed woman.

You've touched people and known it. You've touched people and never may know it. Either way, you have something to give. It is in giving to one another that each of our lives becomes meaningful.

The reward for doing right is mostly an internal phenomenon: self-respect, dignity, integrity, and self-esteem.

This is all you have. This is not a dry run. This is your life. If you want to fritter it away with your fears, then you will fritter it away, but you won't get it back later.

So it is the fear, weakness, selfishness, and cowardice of onlookers that permit evil behavior to persist.

You can't marry boys and expect them to be men - and you can't massage them into being men.

Guys behave like they're naive, but they're not stupid. They know what's going on.

My best way of making someone admit to something's wrongness is to have them imagine that thing done to them. Suddenly then it all becomes clear.

Some women are like elephants. I don't mean size, I mean they never forget.

Behavior is a symptom. If you look at it like a problem, you're just going to make a judgment. If you look at like a symptom, you can do something about it.

Don't underestimate how fine you are.

Depth has one address: fidelity in love.

Controlling mothers do not pass the baton to their son's new wife.

Going into therapy doesn't guarantee poop on toast.

Life does not have meaning through mere existence or acquisition or fun. The meaning of life is inherent in the connections we make to others through honor and obligation.

...home-schooled students are able to successfully adapt emotionally, interpersonally, and academically to their first, and most challenging, semester in college. That is probably because, having had the consistent teaching and support of a family and a community, they have developed strengths and convictions that provide a bridge over the troubled waters of a multitude of challenges and temptations.

There is no movement without our own resistance.

Arguing with a man doesn't work.

If you can't handle the baggage, you'll have to get out of the baggage room.

Don't waste my time- I'm not stupid, and I'm not gullible.

It takes courage to have a conscience when you seem to see others getting something tangible out of not bothering to struggle with the morality of a situation. It gets frustrating and demoralizing. This is precisely where character comes in. All throughout history special people have felt compelled to do what they objectively saw as right and good - even in the face of humiliation or rejection or expulsion or torture or death. That is because they believed that certain ideas were more important than individual well-being.

Frankly, too many women treat their husbands as accessories instead of priorities.

Did you hear what I said? It was very profound.

There's nothing wrong with blame, if blame is due.

I'm not good at debating - I'm much better at pontificating.

Most people are weak and frightened, and run from anything which could be upsetting. Most people, also, are takers and not givers.

Language is our way of communicating what we want and who we are. By using bad language, we diminish the divine spark within us that defines our humanity.

Do not blame God for your stupid decisions.

Losing a child is probably the singular most horrible thing.

Why should a man say what he feels, when a women is going to ignore what he says?

In this regard, pleasure is an event; happiness is a process. Pleasure is an end point; happiness is the journey. Pleasure is material; happiness is spiritual. Pleasure is self-involved; happiness is outer- and other-involved.

Women who don't think they can get a neat guy hang onto losers because something is better than nothing.

The people and circumstances around me do not make me what I am, they reveal who I am

Marriage is not just about love and living together. It's much more complicated, especially when you are going to be making a family.

There are so many responsible, nice, kind guys out there. Why marry a fixer-upper?

We can be negative and cynical or we can be charged and hot wored to find a way through it, over it, around it under it.

Make decisions from the strong part of you, not the weak.

Decent responsible parents are a royal pain- that's how you know when you have them [such parents].

Distance lasts a day. But Reality lasts a lifetime.

You can rescue a woman from a dragon - because you can go slay the dragon - but you can't rescue a woman from herself.

Never do anything that you aren't prepared to face the true consequences of.

Your mother doesn't own you. Your father doesn't own you. You own you.

It's a tough world out there, and women can't afford to be weenies.

If you're a liberal, anything you say is protected. If you're a conservative, anything you say is hateful.

The path to solid, supportive, healthy relationships, self-respect, and a quality life starts with the usually painful decision to do the Right Thing.

As women go, so goes civilization.

Men are very easy- You treat them well, and they behave right. You don't treat them well, and they don't behave right.

Listen carefully, because I don't repeat myself - and if I do, I get testy.

I'm kind of a jock. I sail, I ride a bike, I hike, I pump iron. I just love to be active.

Because it's possible to do, and you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.

Never use God to hurt yourself.

I pretty much preach, teach and nag.

When a man marries he takes a bigger risk than the woman, because she can march out with his kids, his money, his home, and his dog.

Emotions have no I.Q.

When we're hurting, it does not give us a license to hurt others.

In the history of humanity, women have never been as oppressed as they are right now. Men can make babies with us and then walk away.