Joyce brothers quotes

Love, real love, is not simply a state of bliss. It is an ever-changing state, the result of time and emotional development, of trust and commitment.

If a child is given love, he becomes loving ... If he's helped when he needs help, he becomes helpful. And if he has been truly valued at home ... he grows up secure enough to look beyond himself to the welfare of others.

The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it all.

If we did get a divorce, the only way my husband would find out about it is if they announced it on Wide World of Sports.

Virginity is such a personal thing. You can't judge anyone on it. A lot of young women feel they want to save themselves for the man who they think they'll love forever.

The world at large does not judge us by who we are and what we know; it judges us by what we have.

Hunches are a kind of subterranean logic shorthand.

My husband and I have never considered divorce... murder sometimes, but never divorce.

Music is stored in our long-term memory. When we learn something through music, we tend to remember it longer and believe it more deeply. Dr. Joyce Brothers

Scientists still know less about what attracts men than they do about what attracts mosquitoes.

Never try to negotiate with anyone after he or she has eaten. People are best persuaded on an empty stomach. And forget power breakfasts. There is no convincing anyone of anything before 10 A.M.

Feeling gratitude isn't born in us-it's something we are taught, and in turn, we teach our children.

I have found in work that you only get back what you put into it, but it does come back gift-wrapped.

When you forgive, you gain strength and come out a winner.

Men are not conditioned to be less powerful than a woman. It will be the wise woman who realizes this and is sensitive to that issue.

When you look at your life the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.

Marriage is not just spiritual communion, it is also remembering to take out the trash.

The best proof of love is trust.

Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. . . . If you want to influence someone, listen to what he says. . . . When he finishes talking, ask him about any points that you do not understand.

Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life.

When success comes in the door, it seems, love often goes out the window.

In each of us there are places we have never gone. Only by pressing the limits do you ever find them.

A woman should never underestimate the power of the child in the man. Sometimes the child seems to be in the driver's seat at the very moment when all a man's adult judgment and insight is needed.

If you change nothing, nothing changes.

Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the crudest words.

The simple but observable fact is that the more you love, the more you are able to love.

A person's self-concept is the core of his personality.

Nothing brings families together faster than forgiveness. That should make it Step No. 1, but most of us find forgiving hard. We associate it with weakness and losing when, actually, the reverse is true. When you forgive, you gain strength and come out a winner. You break free of control by the other person's actions.

I have emerged from the tunnel of grief into the light. Life is better. Not the same, but good and getting better all the time.

Real intimacy is only possible to the degree that we can be honest about what we are doing and feeling.

Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.

As a celebrity, you get a certain number of free passes. You're actually in a better position if you're a celebrity because people care.

A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.

When you come right down to it, the secret to having it all is loving it all.

Real intimacy depends on truth - lovingly told - especially in the bedroom.

There is such a thing as bad publicity.

It is a man's world at the top, at the bottom, and in between. Men are in the catbird seat as far as income, opportunity, status, and power are concerned. This is the way it always has been and, as far as men are concerned, it is the way it always should be.

I don't give advice. I can't tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.

For some reason, we see divorce as a signal of failure, despite the fact that each of us has a right, and an obligation, to rectify any other mistake we make in life.

Men have two basic needs. Neither of them, no matter what they say, is sex. They need love and they need work. And work takes priority over love. If a woman could know only one fact about men and work, it should be that work is the most seductive mistress most men ever have.

The topic of trust is an important factor in all matters of the heart - and here's why. Men lie to women. Women lie to men. And most people agree that some lying is even necessary - to avoid petty squabbles and to grease the wheels of a relationship.

Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.

If Shakespeare had to go on an author tour to promote Romeo and Juliet, he never would have written Macbeth.

Credit buying is much like being drunk. The buzz happens immediately and gives you a lift... The hangover comes the day after.

If your energy is as boundless as your ambition, total commitment may be a way of life you should seriously consider.

The need to connect with one another intimately is what makes and keeps us human. The challenge throughout life is to find the courage to reach out to potential partners when our primary relationship ends and to recharge our tried-and-true unions when their sizzle starts to fizzle.

Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.

Studies indicate that the one quality all successful people have is persistence.

I watched the Trade Center buildings go down from my balcony, and it was a terrifying moment. I couldn't get my mind around it at all.

There's a very positive relationship between people's ability to accomplish any task and the time they're willing to spend on it.

No matter how lovesick a woman is, she shouldn't take the first pill that comes along!

Some men are self-made, but most are the revised work of a wife and children.

The best of all possible marriages is a seesaw in which first one, then the other partner is dominant.

Those who are the most happy appear to know it the least; happiness is something that for the most part seems to mainly consist in not knowing it.

I don't believe in luck. We make our own good fortune.

Marriages, like careers, need constant nurturing... the secret of having it all is loving it all.

Studies indicate that the one quality all successful people have is persistence. They're willing to spend more time accomplishing a task and to persevere in the face of many difficult odds. There's a very positive relationship between people's ability to accomplish any task and the time they're willing to spend on it.

Women who are confident of their abilities are more likely to succeed than those who lack confidence, even though the latter may be much more competent and talented and industrious.

Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams.

The greatest happiness is family happiness.

Don't always try to be popular. It isn't possible for everyone to like you. It's far more important for you to like yourself. And when you respect yourself, strangely, you get more respect than when you court it from others.

Strong families use the word "we" a lot, but "I" is never forgotten. Family members know they have the freedom to go off on their own, even if the direction is one that "we" have never followed before. The family message is, "We're behind you, so you can be you."

The cynic finds love with the idealist. The rebel with the conformist. The social butterfly with the bookworm. They help each other balance their lives.

They say that money is not everything. I say that when you don't have any, it is everything.

Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can and surely will at times fail. Other vulnerabilities, like being embarrassed or risking love, can be terrifying, too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.

I've enjoyed the pleasures of working since I was 12 and earned all my own spending money since I was 14.

There is a rule in sailing where the more maneuverable ship should give way to the less maneuverable craft. I think this is sometimes a good rule to follow in human relationships as well.

Women do not dress specifically for men or against other women. They dress for their subconscious.

I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.

Trust your hunches... Hunches are usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.

Sex and love are like tea and milk. They can be mixed or they can be taken straight. Each has certain distinctive characteristics, but when they are combined they form a unique substance.

For men to be virgins, we think it's negative. We think that there's something wrong with them.

The only people who don't make mistakes are the people who don't do anything.

Whatever a man thinks about sex, you can be sure that he thinks about sex almost constantly.

A philosopher is a person who doesn't care which side his bread is buttered on; he knows he eats both sides anyway.

Happiness hides in life’s small details. If you’re not looking, it becomes invisible.

No matter how much pressure you feel at work, if you could find ways to relax for at least five minutes every hour, you’d be more productive.

Don't fool yourself that you are going to have it all. You are not. Psychologically, having it all is not even a valid concept. The marvelous thing about human beings is that we are perpetually reaching for the stars. The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it all.

... no matter how great the differences are between men and women, the differences among members of the same sex are usually equally great if not greater.

Any man who watches more than three consecutive football games on TV in one day can be declared legally dead.

Those who have easy, cheerful attitudes tend to be happier than those with less pleasant temperaments, regardless of money, making it, or success.

The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the top.